"Your stretch marks are roadmaps to your best parts"*

Oh word?

Peep Deelishis. (I’m a grown ass woman, dawg. Why I gotta call some other woman DEELISHIS?) Better yet, peep her midsection. Okay. Got it? Let’s move on.

I checked my boy D’s blog and he had this pic of Deelishis up and the subsequent clip from Katt Williams.


Alright… I hear what Katt is saying and I can appreciate it at some level. However, I don’t think that’s the message that men are ACTUALLY sending out. I always hear guy friends talk about liking women with a little “feminine fat”. For example: a soft arm, a little pudge around the waist, big thighs. A lot of guys I know talk about liking natural hair, I’m talking Cree Summer ringlets to Kim Fields locs. Then, you’ve got men like Katt talking about stretch marks.

They say all of these things and then GLORIFY the women who look nearly impossible: big (and perky) boobs, a waist that can rock an anklet as a belly chain, hips like a thoroughbred and a Saartjie Baartman ass. Oh and don’t forget long, flowing hair.

Image after image of women fitting the above specifications are paraded in Black men’s magazines, videos, internet avatars, and desktop backgrounds.

So, can you see how a woman could get confused? If Deelishis wasn’t dragging a wagon behind her, would yall be so accepting of the streaks on her belly?

Just to be sure, go head girl to Deelishis for saying “fuck it” and wearing what she wants to wear. I’m sure she’s happy and comfy, so good for her. I’m just sayin… she had to know we were gonna talk.

Spec Boogie, “Something to Hold On”

  • aych why aych

    in this instance i think im straying from the “eetha way” rule

  • aych why aych

    in this instance i think im straying from the “eetha way” rule

  • http://ihsanamin.wordpress.com ihsanamin

    LOL @ the “Possibly related posts” section.

    I don’t know much about “Deelishis” aside from her being on the Flavor Flav jawn and having a plump toches. (Shalom)

    But stretchmarks or not, she looks like the type of jawn a dude would have a fun night on the town with.
    Drunk and mischievous.

  • http://ihsanamin.wordpress.com ihsanamin

    LOL @ the “Possibly related posts” section.

    I don’t know much about “Deelishis” aside from her being on the Flavor Flav jawn and having a plump toches. (Shalom)

    But stretchmarks or not, she looks like the type of jawn a dude would have a fun night on the town with.
    Drunk and mischievous.

  • Polo Bear

    I am a sucker for a lady with dimples and she has some nice ones.

  • Polo Bear

    I am a sucker for a lady with dimples and she has some nice ones.

  • http://52islandweeks.blogspot.com/ DeeDeeYee

    Good grief I’m glad I found your page. I was actually google’ing “back dimples”, or as wikipedia calls “dimples of venus”, and for some reason your blog pulled up.

    My though- If my gut looked anything like Dee’s, I’d flash it too. Stretch marks and all.

  • http://52islandweeks.blogspot.com/ DeeDeeYee

    Good grief I’m glad I found your page. I was actually google’ing “back dimples”, or as wikipedia calls “dimples of venus”, and for some reason your blog pulled up.

    My though- If my gut looked anything like Dee’s, I’d flash it too. Stretch marks and all.

  • NICOLE

    MINE R WORSE SHE IS OK YOU CANT CHANGE WHAT HAPPENS TO YOUR BODY WHEN U BECOME A MOTHER WORK WITH WHAT YOU HAVE

  • NICOLE

    MINE R WORSE SHE IS OK YOU CANT CHANGE WHAT HAPPENS TO YOUR BODY WHEN U BECOME A MOTHER WORK WITH WHAT YOU HAVE

  • Ken Drizzle

    Gotta veto that.

    She has plenty of nice attributes – like polobear said, she got a real cute face.

    But – them stretch marks are teh fail.

    I’ll also go ahead and say that there are good stretch marks and bad stretch marks, and that those are of the latter variety.

  • Ken Drizzle

    Gotta veto that.

    She has plenty of nice attributes – like polobear said, she got a real cute face.

    But – them stretch marks are teh fail.

    I’ll also go ahead and say that there are good stretch marks and bad stretch marks, and that those are of the latter variety.

  • http://www.CoolCrysChronicles.blogspot.com coolcrys

    What’s with the flavor of love girls wearing fake afro wigs? First New York with her twins all exposed…looking like she got a mouth full of …Now Deelishus with her eighties era Donna Summers afro….what gives?

  • http://www.CoolCrysChronicles.blogspot.com coolcrys

    What’s with the flavor of love girls wearing fake afro wigs? First New York with her twins all exposed…looking like she got a mouth full of …Now Deelishus with her eighties era Donna Summers afro….what gives?

  • http://photography.geralddean.com AGDM

    She is beautiful. Katt is right, if I’m lookin at those marks, either we have been intimate or probably about to be.

    Either way, women shouldn’t be so hard on themselves. Them mags are fake as heck. I know as a photographer. I do plenty retouching on women and men. It is what it is.

    If women are more accepting of themselves the men will follow suit.

  • http://photography.geralddean.com AGDM

    She is beautiful. Katt is right, if I’m lookin at those marks, either we have been intimate or probably about to be.

    Either way, women shouldn’t be so hard on themselves. Them mags are fake as heck. I know as a photographer. I do plenty retouching on women and men. It is what it is.

    If women are more accepting of themselves the men will follow suit.

  • http://lovestutter.blogspot.com Sydnie

    I agree with Ken Drizzle on the good v. bad stretch marks argument. And there is nothing wrong with having them (I’ve got plenty), but we all don’t have to see them.

    I have to say though, that it is reassuring and a bit empowering to know that people (read: men) place stretch marks low on the list of interesting places on a woman’s body.

  • http://lovestutter.blogspot.com Sydnie

    I agree with Ken Drizzle on the good v. bad stretch marks argument. And there is nothing wrong with having them (I’ve got plenty), but we all don’t have to see them.

    I have to say though, that it is reassuring and a bit empowering to know that people (read: men) place stretch marks low on the list of interesting places on a woman’s body.

  • http://www.fairlyprejudiced.blogspot.com Kjen

    Depends on what type of magazine/media you are looking at.

    The lower quality and even more graphic type of media, low-level/up start men’s magazines, low-level porn vs. erotica, your low rent, late night rap video vs. MTV noon day rap fare, etc. These are the type of media outlets that will hail a woman like all natural deelishish.

    In essence those places with money vs. those that don’t have money…dictates what type of taste the man will have.
    **
    I don’t think it’s about what the woman accepts and finds beautiful about herself. It’s more about what the men in her circle tell her what’s beautiful. In D’s circle, she was told that she was the bomb. Now that she is trying to go mainstream…yeah, she’s going to need to ‘upgrade’ herself to gain mass ‘middle class’ appeal
    Take that how you want to.

  • http://www.fairlyprejudiced.blogspot.com Kjen

    Depends on what type of magazine/media you are looking at.

    The lower quality and even more graphic type of media, low-level/up start men’s magazines, low-level porn vs. erotica, your low rent, late night rap video vs. MTV noon day rap fare, etc. These are the type of media outlets that will hail a woman like all natural deelishish.

    In essence those places with money vs. those that don’t have money…dictates what type of taste the man will have.
    **
    I don’t think it’s about what the woman accepts and finds beautiful about herself. It’s more about what the men in her circle tell her what’s beautiful. In D’s circle, she was told that she was the bomb. Now that she is trying to go mainstream…yeah, she’s going to need to ‘upgrade’ herself to gain mass ‘middle class’ appeal
    Take that how you want to.

  • M Fred

    I’m pregnant now and one morning my husband says, “you should really make sure you put that cocoa butter all the way on the sides.”

    I’m like “what?!?” and yes, sure enough, there were stretch marks radiatiing from my ribcage toward my belly, all the way around my front. It sort of looked like I got clawed by a tiger with about 40 toes, and each vertical mark was maybe 4 inches long. I went online that same day and bought the Dr Max Powers Stretch Mark Treatment, and applied it fatihfully several times a day to these new stretch marks for at least a week (now I remember only 2-3X/day). Now, about 4 weeks later, there is literally nothing there.

    I’m choosing to buy this Max Powers Stretch Mark cream since it seems like the best price per ounce, and if I notice new marks, I want to be well-armed to treat them as soon as possible. Dr Max Powers does say their product works best on new marks, and I can certainly vouch for its effectiveness in my case. I’ve also been continuing to use cocoa butter cream mixed with pure vitamin E oil from the healthfood store ($5 for a small vial). After a friend’s doctor warned her not to use Vitamin E oil after varicose vein surgery, as the scars would heal too rapidly, I’ve been a believer in its powers.

  • M Fred

    I’m pregnant now and one morning my husband says, “you should really make sure you put that cocoa butter all the way on the sides.”

    I’m like “what?!?” and yes, sure enough, there were stretch marks radiatiing from my ribcage toward my belly, all the way around my front. It sort of looked like I got clawed by a tiger with about 40 toes, and each vertical mark was maybe 4 inches long. I went online that same day and bought the Dr Max Powers Stretch Mark Treatment, and applied it fatihfully several times a day to these new stretch marks for at least a week (now I remember only 2-3X/day). Now, about 4 weeks later, there is literally nothing there.

    I’m choosing to buy this Max Powers Stretch Mark cream since it seems like the best price per ounce, and if I notice new marks, I want to be well-armed to treat them as soon as possible. Dr Max Powers does say their product works best on new marks, and I can certainly vouch for its effectiveness in my case. I’ve also been continuing to use cocoa butter cream mixed with pure vitamin E oil from the healthfood store ($5 for a small vial). After a friend’s doctor warned her not to use Vitamin E oil after varicose vein surgery, as the scars would heal too rapidly, I’ve been a believer in its powers.

  • Paul

    For many years, I suffer from lack of confidence because of my skin appearance. I had spots, scars, stretch marks, bruises, and untoned skin. I had to live with the fact that I was brutally beaten up by acne acne and it really show. I was introduced to Made from Earth by magazine advertisements. For a very small amount, it was really pricey, but I wanted to desperately get rid of these flaws. I hated the thought of spending money, but when I applied the Vitamin Enhanced Face Firming Serum onto my skin and face area, it wasn’t what I had expected it at all. The firming serum doesn’t leave any greasy or oily residues on face or skin. Made from Earth claimed that you would see the results in three weeks, and they were right!! I applied it to my face and skin two times a day, everyday…like they said, and I saw the difference. The changes were dramatic, and I love it. My skin tone are now balanced, my spots, scars, and bruises have reeduced in appearances. Also, the Aloe Vera Skin Treatment works well with stretch mark. I even used it before, during, and after the pregnancy.

  • Paul

    For many years, I suffer from lack of confidence because of my skin appearance. I had spots, scars, stretch marks, bruises, and untoned skin. I had to live with the fact that I was brutally beaten up by acne acne and it really show. I was introduced to Made from Earth by magazine advertisements. For a very small amount, it was really pricey, but I wanted to desperately get rid of these flaws. I hated the thought of spending money, but when I applied the Vitamin Enhanced Face Firming Serum onto my skin and face area, it wasn’t what I had expected it at all. The firming serum doesn’t leave any greasy or oily residues on face or skin. Made from Earth claimed that you would see the results in three weeks, and they were right!! I applied it to my face and skin two times a day, everyday…like they said, and I saw the difference. The changes were dramatic, and I love it. My skin tone are now balanced, my spots, scars, and bruises have reeduced in appearances. Also, the Aloe Vera Skin Treatment works well with stretch mark. I even used it before, during, and after the pregnancy.